Keeping LOVE alive at midlife takes effort, but the effort has great dividends! As we have celebrated another Valentine’s Day, it has caused me to think a little deeper about LOVE at my age and why it’s so important. It’s definitely in the air over here, even after 3+ years.
First I can’t believe that this year we will have been married for 4 years! Where does the time go? As I’ve talked about my divorce a little bit, and then my whole story with my new husband, there have been loads of women who have reached out to me asking me HOW TO MEET SOMEONE at this stage of life. I’m not sure I have the answers to those questions. I feel like meeting my husband was just one of those things that GOD wanted for the both of us.
MY ADVICE ON HOW TO FIND LOVE
The advice I always give, is to not look too hard. I believe that IF you are living your best and most honest life, and are a good and kind person….. that indeed God will step in if that is your path. I really, really do. I’ve watched this with my older sister, and I believe that the same thing happened to me. Whomever you view as your God or higher power….. if you are prayerful, you will receive guidance.
As I look around at the people I know, everyone’s story is different. But there’s always a common thread, and that is ARE YOU IN TUNE ENOUGH TO KNOW YOUR PATH? You absolutely have to be! Be diligent in taking care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually!!!!
Certainly there are things you can do to maybe help facilitate your journey. I’m always grateful that I didn’t have to go to dating sites or put myself in with a bunch of singles to get noticed. But again, that would be a good place for a single person to be I guess, if they are looking for love. Just don’t put yourself in situations and places, where people are hanging out that don’t even have the same values as you have.
MY MARRIAGE NOW VERSUS THEN
At 3+ years, I’m still learning how to be the best partner for my husband. I’m learning what his needs are and what makes him happy, and he’s still learning the same. Just as any other marriage, ours is evolving and growing and getting better and better! The growth these last three years has been tremendous! I’m much more secure in my LOVE WITH HIM.
Keeping LOVE alive at midlife will be just as challenging as keeping love alive in your 20’s. But we all know that hard work with consistency and sincere thought, bring you more happiness and peace than you can comprehend. And to me….. that’s well worth it! I’ve never been happier and I’ve never felt this much PEACE in a marriage! I’m truly grateful!!!
Shauna XO
AMEN!
Yes sis! WE KNOW ALL ABOUT THIS, don’t we? LOVE YOU! XO