Never in a zillion years would I have thought that I would be a step-mom someday. In fact this is one of the things that horrified me whenever I thought of the possibility of a divorce. There were many things that kept me in my first marriage, unfortunately the wrong things. Marrying another man and then inheriting his family was just something that I wasn’t interested in. The seemingly struggles were just more than I ever wanted to deal with.
My first husband used to tell me that if I ever chose to divorce, I would just be marrying another guy with the “same problems”. He would say, “Every guy is like I am!” Insert an EYEROLL here!!!!! The sad thing was, I believed him! Every divorce I knew about, it was primarily the guy’s issues that caused the divorce, and I thought the chances of finding a GOOD GUY would be nearly impossible.
MY HUSBAND CAME WITH AN AMAZING FAMILY
Well, I’m here to say that there was an AMAZING MAN out there for me, and he just happened to come with an AMAZING FAMILY! I actually met my husband’s daughter (via DM’s) before I met him. She was the one that told me all about their family, how many kids, where they lived, and what they did. She even sent me pictures of most everyone, including all of his siblings. Everything checked out VERY GOOD. However, I wondered could it possibly be true??? This was one of the reasons I was so interested in meeting him in person.
THEY HAVE BLESSED ME IN MULTIPLE WAYS
My stepchildren have blessed my life! They have shown me the upmost respect. I’ve always felt they’re interested in what I do. They have gone out of their way to make me feel a part of their family. They have supported me and understood when I can’t always be there for them because of my workload. I actually couldn’t ask for more!
I’ve heard all the stories, and they haven’t been a part of my experience. And yes I feel very lucky. I raised three sons. I only got girls when I had my grandchildren. I’ve thought a lot about when I’m really old, with not having daughters. Would I be taken care of and feel a son’s love and support when I’m older? It has been a serious question in my mind and quite honestly it has worried me. Now with my stepdaughters, I don’t feel quite as much worry. Even though they are my daughters through my husband, they are loving enough to be there for me WHENEVER I need them….. even when I’m old! That’s just who they are.
I LOVE my sons dearly. And now I can say that I LOVE my stepchildren dearly as well. I never thought I would say that, but it’s now my reality and SO TRUE. They are all such great kids and I’m truly grateful for all the love they’ve thrown my way!!!
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NOTE: I wish I could post pictures more often of my own family, but due to their wishes of privacy, that’s why you don’t see much. I LOVE THEM ALL DEARLY!